Newsflash: I did NOT attend Move It 2019 on Friday, even though I had tickets!
I’ve been going to this huge dance exhibition in London every year since the mid 2000s, but I ended up being unwell last week, plus I had 2 days of a 4-day Essential Oils course over the weekend, so I decided to stay local.
The essential oils course was good on the whole (lots of lovely scents!), but because it was only a group of 4 students, 2 of the ladies who came together ended up dominating the sessions, interrupting with endless questions, many of which weren’t particularly relevant to the whole group, which led to the tutor replying almost every time with a 20 minute explanation.
To top it off, I was told at the end of the second day in front of the others that I am ‘the quiet one of the group’ and need to express myself more…So with that I was made to feel extremely self-conscious and like there’s something wrong with me.
Well hear this: THIS IS ME!
I’m not an extrovert, but I’m not completely introverted either. I believe the term is ambivert (somewhere between the two). I make conversation easily with people, I’ll strike up conversations on the train platform and I express myself through dance and the written word, but I am also drained by too much people interaction (Christmas anyone?).
This is me!
I grew up with two older brothers who dominated the conversation at the dinner table. My mum also talks a lot! Being the youngest, no one was asking my opinion. My default became to listen and observe.
I am not an outward processor, I take a bit longer to absorb and process the information being taught and any questions I have tend to come to me later after I’ve had time to think. (Actually I did ask relevant questions and took part in all aspects, but I didn’t want to interrupt the tutor mid-flow because I was trying to listen and understand). My personality suits my job in dealing with people sensitively and they know I’m not going to blab what they’ve told me to everyone in earshot.
Something I’ve come to realise is that:
- Many people cannot stand silence
- Those who tend to call you quiet do so because you’re not saying anything…to trigger them to talk endlessly about themselves.
What I would have preferred is a set time for questions at the end of each day instead of the constant tangents throughout the day that were not reined in by the tutor.
Anyway, I feel like I’ve learned what I wanted to know about using essential oils safely in my soap biz side gig, so I’m calling it a day and getting back to focusing on rhythm tap, writing and completing my ongoing human resources studies!
Have you ever felt like people are criticising your personality? Have you been told you’re too quiet? Too loud? Aggressive? Passive? Passive-aggressive?! Please do comment below.